Tell Them the Plan
Sometimes meltdowns occur, when children aren’t sure about what is going to happen next. They may grow anxious if they are uncertain about what is coming. This uncertainty might be a trigger for a tantrum. Explain what is happening to them by using a simple three-step plan. This a very helpful strategy to reduce uncertainty for them.
First, we are going to the shop, then going to see grandad, after that we are going to the playground.
First, we are taking Jack to school, then we are going for a walk, after that we are going home for lunch.
In some instances, sticking visuals/photos representing upcoming planned activities onto a laminated card is a great way to support toddlers who like certainty. Only use three at a time. Velcro is a great tool for this.